Self control

"when you are alone take care of thoughts, with friends take care of your words, in the family take care of your mood"

The negatives thoughts: they steal us energy, they stimulate us to desgrace the others, to use violence, to think that we are much better than the others, to create uncomfortability, to make useless jugements on the others or on ourselves... where are they from? Is it possible to control or to avoid them?

Listen to this: one day i was in the aeroport waiting for the boarding, i saw somebody eating a sandwich let's say without control. The girl who was beside me said "how is it possible to eat in this way? i don't want to look at him she said,..." i had also the same impression, but in few second i realized that those our useless jugements are within us but not in the action. I tryed to create this thought" I'm happy that he gets something to eat and he will be happy  too after that". Then I moved close and greeted and after a short but beautiful talk, the man became my good compagnion of the trip. 

I learned to be tolerant, because i'm not the model of the world, i've to respect the behavior of the others and if i want to help some one to change something in order to create harmony in the society, i've to do with respect and love. A correction should be like a gift otherwise it will be rejected. We need to accept also that the correction is always uncomfortable, but when we are humble we can handle this and we will become wiser than before.

Accept others exactly as they are, when you notice your resistance towards anyone ask yourself why. You will probably notice it's because you believe that  they are not doing or  being what you want. it's a sign that we have fallen asleep to who we are as a natural givers. we try to be getters as we want something from others. we forget that true love does not want  for anything or take from anyone, it only gives and shares of itself. Remember that love is , in essence, what we are.

Listen closely to the hearts of others because we can never know what is in the heart of another. It's often the case that they don't really know themselves. We also tend to want to tell them what should be there. To establish real peace in any relationship, one way that guarantees success is to listen not only to their words but to their feelings. Let them tell their story. Let them clarify what is really going on in their heart. As you do, you create a real connection without judgement. As you do, they are able to hear themselves, with greater clarity, what they are really thinking and feeling.

Our mind move like  a wild horse and if we don't educate our mind it can lead us where we don't want to go.

What can we do?

we have power to transform negative in positive thinking. As you know this :it's possible.

when you have conflict with somebody even the person was wrong continue to send to him best wishes and in this way you resolve mentally the situation. Doing this you may find a way to experience freedom before the fisical reconciliation.

Is this topic  interesting for you?

Exercise:

Check many situations that create in you uncomfortability and look with objectivity, try to transform the negative in positive thinking and tell me if it's works. you need daily training for this.


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