Saturday, December 31, 2011
SELFPROGRESS: How to resolve Problems
SELFPROGRESS: How to resolve Problems: " Have a powerful breack betwen the problem and your reaction so that you will participate the intellect on your action otherwise it's easy ...
Sunday, December 11, 2011
why are you afraid?
Two friends were travelling together and the sky was full of clouds. It was getting dark more and more. At a certain moment one of them started to run and the other friend without asking started to run too.
After a while, they finded a river without bridge. The man who started to run continue running along the river and the second crossed the river with all the lagages and he was totally wet. Any way they mate themselves at the other side of the river.
Now came series of questions:
Why didn't you cross the river immediatly? because I was looking for a bridge he answered.
we were running because of the rain and it was not important to wet your stuffs. Some time it's better to know why are you afraid.
When you are afraid ask yourself in which situation are you?
And what are you going to loose and why are you afraid to loose it?
lukodikrista@yahoo.fr
Origin of fear: among many of them, we identify only 4:
1. Ignorance
If you go some where and your mind doesn't have any information about your futur, you think about what you have and who you are and you don't want to loose anything then you feel insecurity and the body develop a mecanism of protection expressed by fear, you can become also nervous.
In this case violence comes like an expression of protection. The same feeling is experienced before examinations, before interviews, in the hospital,... To reduce this we need to prepare well before, to lead a good life and to learn to accept things which are evident like "dead, not succes for exams, to be desapointed after interviews,...
When you discover your reason of being afraid, you will use the good tool to overcome or to protect yourself.
2. Consequences
Hier you know the situation and you understand that you are going to loose something important. And if this thing is part of your security you get fear. If you detach yourself to what you want to loose, fear desapear or become less.
3. Honesty
It can happen that you move in a way that many things you're doing are agains the rules, disturb the freedom of others or disturb the harmony of the society. Hier you fear Authorities, because when they discorver they can react in a way that may cause uncomfortability.
Respect rules if it's possible you'll experience mental freedom, respect agreement,...
4. Reactions
Hier you know that the ractions of your actions will create disturbings. For exemple, you talk badly about somebody while he/she ist not present and you are conscious that if he/she knows,...
It's better to be careful when we talk about some one who is not present.
When somebody is afraid, the breath becomes short and have less quantity of oxygen in the brain, then the capacity of reflecting reduces, the same thing happens when we are angry. This is why when we are angry the first thing is to go away physically or mentally from the place in oder to detach our senses from the situation. If you start to breath slowlly you can come back to the normal breathing rythm and the agitation reduces.
Are you afraid to loose your life, your dignity, your peace or something else, material things or immaterial things, afraid to show your weack side...? more and more you fear something, more and more you become weack when it's approaches or you use the bad tool to face it.
Are you afraid of somebody? because he his stronger than you, because he has monney, because he is the boss, because he is responsable,... all those are roles but they are persons like you. Discorver only what you fear and you will know how to move. doing sport in a correct way can help you to develop selfconfidence and courage to face fear.
To do things with love help to reduce fear.
After a while, they finded a river without bridge. The man who started to run continue running along the river and the second crossed the river with all the lagages and he was totally wet. Any way they mate themselves at the other side of the river.
Now came series of questions:
Why didn't you cross the river immediatly? because I was looking for a bridge he answered.
we were running because of the rain and it was not important to wet your stuffs. Some time it's better to know why are you afraid.
When you are afraid ask yourself in which situation are you?
And what are you going to loose and why are you afraid to loose it?
lukodikrista@yahoo.fr
1. Ignorance
If you go some where and your mind doesn't have any information about your futur, you think about what you have and who you are and you don't want to loose anything then you feel insecurity and the body develop a mecanism of protection expressed by fear, you can become also nervous.
In this case violence comes like an expression of protection. The same feeling is experienced before examinations, before interviews, in the hospital,... To reduce this we need to prepare well before, to lead a good life and to learn to accept things which are evident like "dead, not succes for exams, to be desapointed after interviews,...
When you discover your reason of being afraid, you will use the good tool to overcome or to protect yourself.
2. Consequences
Hier you know the situation and you understand that you are going to loose something important. And if this thing is part of your security you get fear. If you detach yourself to what you want to loose, fear desapear or become less.
3. Honesty
It can happen that you move in a way that many things you're doing are agains the rules, disturb the freedom of others or disturb the harmony of the society. Hier you fear Authorities, because when they discorver they can react in a way that may cause uncomfortability.
Respect rules if it's possible you'll experience mental freedom, respect agreement,...
4. Reactions
Hier you know that the ractions of your actions will create disturbings. For exemple, you talk badly about somebody while he/she ist not present and you are conscious that if he/she knows,...
It's better to be careful when we talk about some one who is not present.
When somebody is afraid, the breath becomes short and have less quantity of oxygen in the brain, then the capacity of reflecting reduces, the same thing happens when we are angry. This is why when we are angry the first thing is to go away physically or mentally from the place in oder to detach our senses from the situation. If you start to breath slowlly you can come back to the normal breathing rythm and the agitation reduces.
Are you afraid of somebody? because he his stronger than you, because he has monney, because he is the boss, because he is responsable,... all those are roles but they are persons like you. Discorver only what you fear and you will know how to move. doing sport in a correct way can help you to develop selfconfidence and courage to face fear.
To do things with love help to reduce fear.
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Self control
"when you are alone take care of thoughts, with friends take care of your words, in the family take care of your mood"
The negatives thoughts: they steal us energy, they stimulate us to desgrace the others, to use violence, to think that we are much better than the others, to create uncomfortability, to make useless jugements on the others or on ourselves... where are they from? Is it possible to control or to avoid them?
Listen to this: one day i was in the aeroport waiting for the boarding, i saw somebody eating a sandwich let's say without control. The girl who was beside me said "how is it possible to eat in this way? i don't want to look at him she said,..." i had also the same impression, but in few second i realized that those our useless jugements are within us but not in the action. I tryed to create this thought" I'm happy that he gets something to eat and he will be happy too after that". Then I moved close and greeted and after a short but beautiful talk, the man became my good compagnion of the trip.
I learned to be tolerant, because i'm not the model of the world, i've to respect the behavior of the others and if i want to help some one to change something in order to create harmony in the society, i've to do with respect and love. A correction should be like a gift otherwise it will be rejected. We need to accept also that the correction is always uncomfortable, but when we are humble we can handle this and we will become wiser than before.
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Accept others exactly as they are, when you notice your resistance towards anyone ask yourself why. You will probably notice it's because you believe that they are not doing or being what you want. it's a sign that we have fallen asleep to who we are as a natural givers. we try to be getters as we want something from others. we forget that true love does not want for anything or take from anyone, it only gives and shares of itself. Remember that love is , in essence, what we are.
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Listen closely to the hearts of others because we can never know what is in the heart of another. It's often the case that they don't really know themselves. We also tend to want to tell them what should be there. To establish real peace in any relationship, one way that guarantees success is to listen not only to their words but to their feelings. Let them tell their story. Let them clarify what is really going on in their heart. As you do, you create a real connection without judgement. As you do, they are able to hear themselves, with greater clarity, what they are really thinking and feeling.
Our mind move like a wild horse and if we don't educate our mind it can lead us where we don't want to go.
What can we do?
we have power to transform negative in positive thinking. As you know this :it's possible.
when you have conflict with somebody even the person was wrong continue to send to him best wishes and in this way you resolve mentally the situation. Doing this you may find a way to experience freedom before the fisical reconciliation.
Is this topic interesting for you?
Exercise:
Check many situations that create in you uncomfortability and look with objectivity, try to transform the negative in positive thinking and tell me if it's works. you need daily training for this.
LOVE AND PEACE BE WITH YOU
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Saturday, December 3, 2011
How to resolve Problems
" Have a powerful breack betwen the problem and your reaction so that you will participate the intellect on your action otherwise it's easy to react with instinct and some of those reactions cause conflicts and hurt not only the others but also yourself."
Instead of creating tension before resolving difficult situations, we need to relax because in state of agitation we use more the emmotional side of our mind and less the rational side.
Let's consider that a problem is a situation that challenges your happyness, your security, your freedom, your vision of life, your relationschip, your affection, and etc. A problem is a situation in which you don't have an answer or you are not agree with the answer.
with this approach a problem appear like an obstacle on our way, something that threaten our life. This situation create insecurity , then your survival instinct sent an allert in the entier body so you get the attitude of defence. Hier, you deffend yourself or some thing that you don't like to loose. You can use many way: To tell lies, to use your position(responsability, capacities, social classe) to intimidate the others, to escape, to create confusion, and etc... some time you don't know how to defend and you just cry to release the tension or to demostrate your innocence, your weakness, your emotions,...
The risk is that we can use all the energy to protect ourselves einstead of searching a solution to the problem.
The answer exist but need patience because the process to the solution would take time.
10 of many passages in front of a (problem)obstacle:
1. fisical or spiritual feeling (to bring down with deep breathing)
2.dettach yourself to the situation in oder to see things with objectivity
3.identify the problem
4.accept the situation
5.look for the solution( be honest and humble, have courage to express yourself, don't reserve bad surprise for others).
6.accept the solution and consequences
7.reconciliate with yourself and with others so that you don't have internal wounds
8.make a decision after learning from the situation, beacause ther's alway a messagge behind situations and if we are not carreful we don't get it and the next time we fall in the same traps.
9.have confidence on the decision and detach yourself
10.react and enjoy the life.
"Problems are also opportunities to make new axperience, to become strong, to grow up spiritually or psichologically, to open new relationschip, we can become more wiser than before, we discover our limits and if we accept it this will lead us to umility and good understanding of ourselves(it is a chance to get to process of change),..."
Exercise:
Consider your situation and try to use the 10 advices. If you discover others tools you can communicate so that we can add to the list.
Instead of creating tension before resolving difficult situations, we need to relax because in state of agitation we use more the emmotional side of our mind and less the rational side.
Let's consider that a problem is a situation that challenges your happyness, your security, your freedom, your vision of life, your relationschip, your affection, and etc. A problem is a situation in which you don't have an answer or you are not agree with the answer.
with this approach a problem appear like an obstacle on our way, something that threaten our life. This situation create insecurity , then your survival instinct sent an allert in the entier body so you get the attitude of defence. Hier, you deffend yourself or some thing that you don't like to loose. You can use many way: To tell lies, to use your position(responsability, capacities, social classe) to intimidate the others, to escape, to create confusion, and etc... some time you don't know how to defend and you just cry to release the tension or to demostrate your innocence, your weakness, your emotions,...
The risk is that we can use all the energy to protect ourselves einstead of searching a solution to the problem.
The answer exist but need patience because the process to the solution would take time.
10 of many passages in front of a (problem)obstacle:
1. fisical or spiritual feeling (to bring down with deep breathing)
2.dettach yourself to the situation in oder to see things with objectivity
3.identify the problem
4.accept the situation
5.look for the solution( be honest and humble, have courage to express yourself, don't reserve bad surprise for others).
6.accept the solution and consequences
7.reconciliate with yourself and with others so that you don't have internal wounds
8.make a decision after learning from the situation, beacause ther's alway a messagge behind situations and if we are not carreful we don't get it and the next time we fall in the same traps.
9.have confidence on the decision and detach yourself
10.react and enjoy the life.
"Problems are also opportunities to make new axperience, to become strong, to grow up spiritually or psichologically, to open new relationschip, we can become more wiser than before, we discover our limits and if we accept it this will lead us to umility and good understanding of ourselves(it is a chance to get to process of change),..."
Exercise:
Consider your situation and try to use the 10 advices. If you discover others tools you can communicate so that we can add to the list.
Tuesday, November 29, 2011
you are the principal actor of your life's film
We are all actors , we need just to play our roles at the right moment. we are all important and no one is able to play our roles more than ourselves.
Nobody choose where, how, or with which sex to born. Those attributions are part of our natural identity.
while growing, you develop some aspect of your capacities then you find a place in the society: you'll get many others attributions(teacher, student, director, workers...) you may experience in your life some states like:( rich, pour,...). Some sensations like: (happiness, sadness...)would be also experienced.
All the circomstances of the life are part of our film in which we have a role to play or to discover at the moment(improvisation). The role can be activ or passiv, but some time we use to do what is not important and wast time and energy , up to disordinate this part of the film. Now you permite others elements(like police,reponsables,...) to come on the field and renew the Harmony. Each part of the film have a special feeling, some part don't need special effect(exagerations or accessories, speech), some scenes need more perfections, others less. All the actors need some elements like patient and humility especially in time of disharmony in oder to be able to forgive and give a special taste in this part of the film. In some scenes we need to accept things as they are because we can not change them, and we learn to go ahead alone or with help of others actors.
On some field you can be a principal actor and on the others you need to respect the principal actor. Please don't be moving like a principal actor everywhere. Our actions dont produce the same effect in each scene so don't be desapointed if it happen.
In some situations our role can be to observe only with detachment, in some others we need to participate so play this role with all your being, be present, try your best.
You need to play your role for a periode and then you have to leave the field in oder to give chance to an other to come and play his role. If you block this process you can create desharmony so the others will use many ways to force you to leave the place free.
Exercise:
A. 1.Introduce yourself with natural identity ( Name, gender, country) 2.society's rancking 3.all the others attributions
B. Consider a difficult situation : don't imagine but work on something true.
C. How started the scene, how ended the scene or how it is if you don't have a solution?
D. Find your part with objectivity in the scene.
E. Which kind of actor are you? which kind of effects do you produce in various scenes?
F. Do you want to go ahead in this way or you understand that something can be done better as before?
You have the possibility to restart again, get your courage and make a step ahead.
Remember that if you tell to somebody"go away i don't want to see you anymore" it's possible to create a strong connection that set up in you violence, sadness,... at any time you'll hear the name of this person, you feel uncomfortability.
Now read once more the text: you may discover that maybe in some moment it was important to remain quiet but you said a word and the discussion became strong or...
If you was wrong, use peacefull tools to resolve the situation:
If you are not able to face the situation, invite other actors on the field.
I`m also one of many actors.
Is your film dramatic, Horror, action, comedy, spiritual,...?
Nobody choose where, how, or with which sex to born. Those attributions are part of our natural identity.
while growing, you develop some aspect of your capacities then you find a place in the society: you'll get many others attributions(teacher, student, director, workers...) you may experience in your life some states like:( rich, pour,...). Some sensations like: (happiness, sadness...)would be also experienced.
All the circomstances of the life are part of our film in which we have a role to play or to discover at the moment(improvisation). The role can be activ or passiv, but some time we use to do what is not important and wast time and energy , up to disordinate this part of the film. Now you permite others elements(like police,reponsables,...) to come on the field and renew the Harmony. Each part of the film have a special feeling, some part don't need special effect(exagerations or accessories, speech), some scenes need more perfections, others less. All the actors need some elements like patient and humility especially in time of disharmony in oder to be able to forgive and give a special taste in this part of the film. In some scenes we need to accept things as they are because we can not change them, and we learn to go ahead alone or with help of others actors.
On some field you can be a principal actor and on the others you need to respect the principal actor. Please don't be moving like a principal actor everywhere. Our actions dont produce the same effect in each scene so don't be desapointed if it happen.
In some situations our role can be to observe only with detachment, in some others we need to participate so play this role with all your being, be present, try your best.
You need to play your role for a periode and then you have to leave the field in oder to give chance to an other to come and play his role. If you block this process you can create desharmony so the others will use many ways to force you to leave the place free.
Exercise:
A. 1.Introduce yourself with natural identity ( Name, gender, country) 2.society's rancking 3.all the others attributions
B. Consider a difficult situation : don't imagine but work on something true.
C. How started the scene, how ended the scene or how it is if you don't have a solution?
D. Find your part with objectivity in the scene.
E. Which kind of actor are you? which kind of effects do you produce in various scenes?
F. Do you want to go ahead in this way or you understand that something can be done better as before?
You have the possibility to restart again, get your courage and make a step ahead.
Remember that if you tell to somebody"go away i don't want to see you anymore" it's possible to create a strong connection that set up in you violence, sadness,... at any time you'll hear the name of this person, you feel uncomfortability.
Now read once more the text: you may discover that maybe in some moment it was important to remain quiet but you said a word and the discussion became strong or...
If you was wrong, use peacefull tools to resolve the situation:
I`m also one of many actors.
Is your film dramatic, Horror, action, comedy, spiritual,...?
Thursday, November 24, 2011
The second element is the" key"
Our mind works though tree elements:
1. The input: all the informations that arrive in our mind through the 5 sens's organs.
2.The Program: Is the store of Knowledge or value you received from Parent's education, school's education, religious education, from associations, from friends, or things that for various circomstances a person learn himself or understand,... when you agree with those informations, they build your personality and your state of soul depend to the harmony or desarmony of your actions with your program.
3.The output: Is our reactions in front of situations. This output help the others to know you, or to have an idea of you.
I call the passage Input-program-output GOLDEN PATH
The second part of this post is personal, but i need first your comment about the first part.
"Before giving the answer "yes" or "no" ,"i know" or " i don't know" we follow the "golden path" conscious or unconscious. Many persons jump the program, but many situations ogligate us to pass throught program in oder to react acording to our personality". Read once more the all text and send to me your comments. lukodikrista@yahoo.fr
1. The input: all the informations that arrive in our mind through the 5 sens's organs.
2.The Program: Is the store of Knowledge or value you received from Parent's education, school's education, religious education, from associations, from friends, or things that for various circomstances a person learn himself or understand,... when you agree with those informations, they build your personality and your state of soul depend to the harmony or desarmony of your actions with your program.
3.The output: Is our reactions in front of situations. This output help the others to know you, or to have an idea of you.
I call the passage Input-program-output GOLDEN PATH
The second part of this post is personal, but i need first your comment about the first part.
"Before giving the answer "yes" or "no" ,"i know" or " i don't know" we follow the "golden path" conscious or unconscious. Many persons jump the program, but many situations ogligate us to pass throught program in oder to react acording to our personality". Read once more the all text and send to me your comments. lukodikrista@yahoo.fr
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Free your mind and fly(just to relax)
When the mind is free, the soul is peaceful the expression of this harmony inspired by a rythm can let a smile appear and a human can dance even things around are looking serious. Ther's time for all what you want, but you need to do things at their right moment.
http://www.youtube.com/: ottmarings_tree dv
YOU are more than a STEREO, you need just to wake up
Somebody told me one day that I was not intelligent, i gave a simple smile and say thanks. an oder day he told me that i was intelligent, I gave a smile and say thanks. He asked this question:"I dont understand you, is everything ok for you? yes I answered. But he told me that I was hiding my real sensation and that is not human.
now I hare the secret of my philosophy
when you want to listen to the music using a stereo, you need to press ON to start and to press STOP to end. When they tell me that I'm intelligent I start jumping and when they tell me the contrary I become sad . You don't understand that the others decide about your happiness and your sadness. you need to do something , you can not go ahead in this way. I'm "myself" and the others are looking in me what they need to feell comfort and when they find it they congratulate me with many expressions and when they don't find they tell me the contrary. Now the question is "who am I"?
Feel free to write to my personal E-mail if you need to get start : lukodikrista@yahoo.fr because of the privacy and if you want to share the experience after on the blog that will be the next step.
The test: be honest with yourself
1.Who are you? give five answers
2.write down five of your qualities(strengthness)
3.write down five of your bad habit(weakness)
you can be an expert but don't desgrace others because you are expert on some feld in many others you are not expert: be humble, honnest and help the others with your capacity, give your best, collaborate...
I will be greatful for your suggestions in oder to offer good quality of this service.
Friendly
now I hare the secret of my philosophy
when you want to listen to the music using a stereo, you need to press ON to start and to press STOP to end. When they tell me that I'm intelligent I start jumping and when they tell me the contrary I become sad . You don't understand that the others decide about your happiness and your sadness. you need to do something , you can not go ahead in this way. I'm "myself" and the others are looking in me what they need to feell comfort and when they find it they congratulate me with many expressions and when they don't find they tell me the contrary. Now the question is "who am I"?
Feel free to write to my personal E-mail if you need to get start : lukodikrista@yahoo.fr because of the privacy and if you want to share the experience after on the blog that will be the next step.
The test: be honest with yourself
1.Who are you? give five answers
2.write down five of your qualities(strengthness)
3.write down five of your bad habit(weakness)
you can be an expert but don't desgrace others because you are expert on some feld in many others you are not expert: be humble, honnest and help the others with your capacity, give your best, collaborate...
I will be greatful for your suggestions in oder to offer good quality of this service.
Friendly
Wednesday, November 16, 2011
The extremities are dangerous in our life:we need balance
I remeber the firstday i receved a toy from my parents i started playing until i forgot to eat. When they called me to eat i refused. Some days after they gave me some rules to follow in oder to equilibrate the life, it was very difficult but i tried. I remember also that my behaviors changed in font of my friend: i was gentle to play with them at the mean time i was the boss because i could decide to end the game or to make rules. When my toy was destroyed, i becam so humble and the relationship with my friends was pure. when i got the new toy everything changed because i understood the need of respecting the others, to let them enjoy the life with my toy without stupid rules as before and they was using the toy with love and attention.
Ask following questions to yourself and be honest with your answer.
Compare the story with some aspect of your life
Ask following questions to yourself and be honest with your answer.
Compare the story with some aspect of your life
1.Now as a person more than 12 years old, i ask myself: how many time i forget to eat(or to care myself ) because i've to do something very important? this body will be tired one day remember this
2:Now i have a best job ranking :do i consider the others persons as useless men?
3.Do i identify myself with what i have? do i desgrace the others? take care it can be like a toy.
This is just the beginning of many others topics.
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