How to resolve Problems

" Have a powerful breack betwen the problem and your reaction so that you will participate the intellect on your action otherwise it's easy to react with instinct and some of those reactions cause conflicts and hurt  not only the others but also yourself."

Instead of creating tension before resolving difficult situations, we need to  relax because in state of agitation we use more the emmotional side of our mind and less the rational side.
Let's consider that a problem is a situation that challenges your happyness, your security, your freedom, your vision of life, your relationschip, your affection, and etc. A problem is a situation in which you don't have an answer or you are not agree with the answer.
with this approach  a problem appear like  an obstacle on our way, something that threaten our life. This situation create insecurity , then your survival instinct sent an allert in the entier body so you get the attitude of defence. Hier,  you deffend yourself or some thing that you don't like to loose. You can use many way: To tell lies, to use your position(responsability, capacities, social classe) to intimidate the others, to escape, to create confusion, and etc... some time you don't know how to defend and you just cry to release the tension or to demostrate your innocence, your weakness, your emotions,...
The risk is that we can use all the energy to protect ourselves einstead of searching a solution to the problem.
The answer exist but need patience because the process to the solution would take time.
10 of many  passages in front of a (problem)obstacle:

1. fisical or spiritual feeling (to bring down with deep breathing)
2.dettach yourself to the situation in oder to see things with objectivity
3.identify the problem
4.accept the situation
5.look for the solution( be honest and humble, have courage to express yourself, don't reserve bad surprise for others).
6.accept the solution and consequences
7.reconciliate with yourself and with others so that you don't have internal wounds
8.make a decision after learning from the situation, beacause ther's alway a messagge behind situations and if we are not carreful we don't get it and the next time we fall in the same traps.
9.have confidence on the decision and detach yourself
10.react and enjoy the life.

"Problems are also opportunities to make new axperience, to become strong, to grow up spiritually or psichologically, to open new relationschip, we can become more wiser than before, we discover our limits and if we accept it this will lead us to umility and good understanding of ourselves(it is a chance to get to process of change),..."

Exercise:

 Consider your situation and try to use the 10 advices. If you discover others tools you can communicate so that we can add to the list.